True Life...I Am Dating a Meat Eater October 11, 2007

I'm dating a meat eater and it works out, we both accept each other and know not to try to convert each other. Sometimes i have him try new recipes, and it broadens his horizons, but we both know that it's part of who the other is and accept it.

I'm a vegan boy dating a wonderful vegan girl, and I would never have it any other way.

I dated a total carnivore a few years back. At the time, I had just converted, so I still had my omnivore mentality. I wouldn't kiss him if I could smell meat on his breath, but that was about it.

My feelings have strengthened greatly since then, and, even though I'm still friends with him, I can't help but feel that it's incredibly selfish, especially from someone who actually does care for animals - he's just another carnivore that blatantly chooses to ignore the truth. I can be friends with a wide variety of people I don't agree with, but I couldn't date them seriously.

I definitely could not do it again unless the person I was dating was already considering vegetarianism. I can't help but disagree with the idea that we should date omnivores in order to encourage conversion; nothing turns someone away from an idea more than pushing them toward it against their will, and nothing breaks up a relationship faster. I live in the Bible Belt, where so many people will date someone they don't agree with religiously in hopes of converting them. I KNOW how that turns out.

If you can't date them the way they are, don't date them.

i hate having meat-eating boyfriends.
one of the boy's i was dating at dinner asked me "eww you're not gonna try and turn me vegan are you?", i knew that was the end of it.
another one of my ex's ordered a 25$ steak at the hard rock cafe when we were on our second date, and he thought that an expensive piece of meat would impress me? gross.

Im also dating a meat eater who I happen to be inlove with and were thinking about getting engaged, hes tried to become a vegitarian but it didn't work out people are constantly shoving meat in his face especially his mother I love him with all my heart and Ive never tried to change him he wanted to try it out hisself and give it a chance and he doesn't try to change me one bit he says hes proud of me and hes proud of what Im sticking up for I love him so much and I kiss him all the time right after he brushes his teeth really good..It shouldn't matter if your a meat eater or a vegitarian or vegan if you love someone you respect them the only time you should leave someone is if they don't have the same respect for you and try to force there beliefs or just try to make you do something that you don't want to,anyways I hope I helped out with people who think dating a meat eater is wrong because its not and love over powers all

yea i agree with kayliegh i am as well dating a meat-eater and we as well repect each other's differences and try and work with them as much as posible but it kinda hurts when he sits down with my mom and dad him and i and makes fun of me for it with them it kinda hurts when they gang up but you knwo what i feel i am doing good and it makes me feel better knowing i saved lifes and knowing i am healthy:) comon people comment!!!

My boyfriend LOVES meat and im a vegetarian. He feels bad because i tell him what they do in the factories, but he says he shouldnt be punished because of what other people decide to do.

6. When you're on Peta they say things like "aww.. ' I am not a nugget'.. that's really cute!.. I still love chicken nuggets though."

Yeah I confess I dated a meat-eater too, but now we're just friends and I have learned that it's easier to be with a vegan and vegetarian as lovers(Sorry folks, but I have to agree with Lara)I just can't help that I feel snotty about the people I choose to have a relation with. It's like back then having a relationship with race discriminators. I just don't see myself kissing carnivores, SICK!!!

Anybody who won't date someone because of what they eat is just being pathetic. I myself am vegetarian but would never use that against someone to put myself on a moral pedestal, thereby excluding the opportunity of their love. Stop being so dogmatic about this, don't lower dietary habits to the primal levels of a religion.

Ahh' my boyfriend is a meat eater, and he doesn't know that I'm soon to be a vegan again. You're right. Once you're a vegan, don't stop.. you get fat and ewey and gross with all those dairy products. Well, I still love him. It just might be awkward...

i have a hard time even thinking about dating a meat eater, i know i cannot kiss him if he has eaten meat, it just makes me sick to think about it. I am very much invovled with animal rights, and if i cannot meet someone who shares the same values and love for animals then i might have to refuse dating him. i have been with guys in the past that laughed at my morals, and my choices, so i have very high standards for a potential boyfriend, and they will never go down.
i want a guy who respects me and my choices, and who shares the same choices. i am 14 years old, and i am very proud of myself for having such a control over my diet and decisions. i am a PROUD vegan, and i will settle for nothing less than a vegetarian.

-_- This is so very shallow. Not dating someone just because they eat meat?! That's horrible!!!

A person is a person, no matter what. Love is love, age, sex, culture, so if all of that stuff is considered, then love shouldn't be ruled according to what people eat. I know it's bad, and all of that stuff... as long as he respects that you are a vegetarian.

I'm happily dating a meat-eater and he's the most amazing person i've met in my life. If i would have excluded him from my life b/c he eats meat, then i'd be missing out on the person i want to spend the rest of my life with. Meat or no meat, i love him.

yeah, i have this delema
Dating a meat eating Marine Soldier. He's too stubborn to listen to me when i tell him the health benefits of veganism.

i've been a vegan all my life and i don't have an issue with dating meat eaters. every person i've dated has eaten meat, it's very difficult in my area to find a person who doesn't eat meat. it's never bothered me i just make sure my current boyfriend doesn't have a mouth full of meat before i kiss him

my husband gave up meat about 6 months after i did, since i basically forced him to. he read the peta packets i had laying around and needless to say got grossed out. he stayed veggie for a bit, but has recently gone back. It really stinks. I mean, it really really stinks. I got so mad at him last night he dipped his steak into my cheesey sauce on my pasta. i got really upset. he felt bad. he tries to only eat organic, cage free, grassfed animals. it makes it SLIGHTLY tolerable, but all in all i am not happy with his new decision.

Second thought I take back everything that I just said. I now disagree with Lara and agree with everyone else who is more mature. Lara I adore you and all considering the fact that you are a major part of peta, but since when did this whole idea of dating meat eaters became an issue? It wasn't last year or the year before I decided on my very own to change, Rob didn't have to tell me anything. Who are we to to judge someone just because of they do or eat? We have no right at all! I'm sorry Lara but I believe you should respect the decisions that others make, we're not hurting anyone. It's not fair to the couple who's the meat eater to be expected to follow a different belief and yet is expected to respect our moral beliefs. No one should think of posting this to begin with. I'm not trying to be mean, I just hate when we're being told who to date just because others find a thing or two about the people that we decide to date unattractive. Most of all when it comes to choosing romantic partners, only we the choosers get to be the judge of them--- NOONE else.

I am dating a meat-eater and I do not think it is that bad. He respects my desicion and therefore does not eat meat in front of me, so I will respect his decision. I think this guy may very well be the "one". With that said, I told him before he ever makes a commitment to me (proposing to me, or married) that I would like him to give up meat for me, and he has agreed.

I know where you are coming from. I have dated a few meat eaters in my life (while being vegan). My most recent boyfriend (with whom I am no longer with) actually converted into a vegan after finding out how horribly most animals are treated. Advice from me is not to push it. If you like him and he likes you, what you believe in shouldn't matter.

I think It's really kind of discriminatory to not date someone just because of what they choose to eat. If their not getting on your case about NOT eating meat then you definitiley shouldn't get on theirs. So what if they eat meat, I'd love someone even if they were a cannibal. Don't deny someone love that they may deserve just because of a choice they make.

I know this is somewhat off topic to the whole boyfriend, girlfriend thing. I know what you mean by don't go back (the whole spiritual/love for animals part) but, another thing factors into that.. If you go back to eating meat even a month after eating no meat what so ever, you can get really sick. I remember the first time I tried being vegetarian and went back, I was at home sick for a week. Now, I'm going to try it again. So far, so good.

My boyfriend became somewhat vegetarian when we moved in together. I didn't push him or anything, but since i do all the cooking... (i'm vegan). He was always open to it anyway.
Now he seems to thinks meat is gross too and he does care about animal rights (animal welfare would be more accurate).
I hate men who are too stubborn and macho to even consider not eating meat. Meat doesn't make you more manly.

I'm dating a meat eater as well and I'm slowly but surely becoming a vegetarian. I'm having a hard time because my boyfriend's idea of food are hot dogs, BBQ, sandwhiches and burgers. Eww. He doesn't mind that I'm becoming a veggie because I asked what he would think and he told me he'd love me anyway. I don't know what to do though because he pays for the groceries and therefore he gets a say in what we eat.

I am engaged to a meat eater and although I disagree strongly with his decision (and he knows it) it hasn't been a huge issue. (Well, maybe once or twice.) Naturally, when we first find out about the injustices committed against animals on factory farms, we expect our partners to get as angry about it as we are - but many people just aren't in that mind-set or in that state of life yet. My solution has been that my boyfriend buys his own meat/milk/what-have-you as far as groceries go. If I'm cooking, I won't cook meat. If he absolutely insists on meat in his meal, he can buy it, cook it, and add it to the meal himself (which is often too much trouble heh heh.) I'm hoping he'll open his eyes and come around eventually, but until then, I find that gentle reminders (about the welfare of animals, health issues, and environmental issues) work better than anything else.

the only guys that i know of that are vegan are gay so im out of luck not just that im sol.o and the guy i like loves meat. he tried to get me to eat a ham sandwitch/turkey sandwitch at the poetry cafe

If we shouldn't eat animals - why're they made out of steak?

I've been a vegetarian for a few years now and I always end up dating meat eaters. I can respect his decition (as long as he respects mine), but I agree that kissing a meat mouth is gross.

i know that this is not the case for the luckey 1's but all the vegan/vegitarian boys i find are gay.gay.gay.nutin rong with that......but i don't exactly have sum1 to date now do i?it sux bad. because meat is morilly and physically repulsing and all i have to date is meat eaterz....i haven't kissed a boy.ever.i am 13 soooo i wish i could soon but i doubt thatl happen.

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It might be fairly easy to find vegetarians if you look hard enough. At my school there are prolly a lot of them. You just seriousely shouldn't judge somebody just cuz they believe something different (Yeah, It's gross- I know!) but give it some time and you will either get used to it, or you can change their mind. I mean they aren't the ones killing the animals, their eating them! Just don't eat around that person. xD

All the guys I've dated have been meat eaters, and I think that as long as you both respect each others decisions then it should NOT affect your relationship. Truthfully, I certainly would prefer to be dating a vegetarian/vegan but I won't rule out others based on whether or not they eat meat.

If you are a strict vegetarian for ethical reasons, then YES it would and should have a huge affect on who you date.

You don't have to push your beliefs on anyone, but why would you even want to be with someone who is pro-meat? Meat kisses? gross. gross. gross.

It's not shallow. It's a way of life and if someone doesn't share it, then it would be a challenge.

I'm in this situation. I am almost near my 30 day mark as a vegetarian and am starting to worry about our future. He has made it very clear that he won't give up meat. We have been together 4 1/2 years so it's hard to think about leaving him. But I def will make it clear that when I have my own house, not an ounce of meat will ever make it into the house. And my future children are not eating it. It's incredibly gross to think about kissing him now. People don't realize that this is more than a diet. It's a believe that only gets stronger with each day. It's like an atheist marrying a devoted christian. It's a tough situation.

Meat eaters stink . PERIOD im a man and dont eat anymeat . The first compliment is how good I smell is . Any of you ladies who settle for meat eaters , im confused by that. If you wanna chat get at me.

Meat eaters stink . PERIOD im a man and dont eat anymeat . The first compliment is how good I smell is . Any of you ladies who settle for meat eaters , im confused by that. If you wanna chat get at me.

I would like to say that i really like your site blog.peta2.com a lot
now.. back on topic hehe
I cant say that i agree with what you wrote... care to clear things up for me?

I just started dating a meat eater. my last boyfriend who i lived with was a veg and activist like i am. the new guy is amazing in every other respect but i cant help but let it bother me that he supports the meat industry. He doesnt eat it in front of me and is perfectly fine to each vegan meals but knowing he eats meat sometimes bothers me : ( i do think it is a big deal because it says a lot about a person. supporting the meat industry is against everything we work for. im out petitioning and leafletting and hes eating a steak. i dont know what to do!

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